Lee

I refer to myself as “Happily Never Married” because I believe God has kindly kept me from making some terrible decisions that would have scarred my life and the life of others. I don’t bear the wounds of the majority of my formerly married and now divorced friends. I have never had to drag around that kind of baggage of guilt or betrayal, or of not being the best parent. The gift to me is being able to walk into each new day without divided loyalties and with one simple question, “Lord what would YOU have me do this day?”

Just to illustrate, the Apostle Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7:33-35 (Amplified Bible):
33 But the married man is anxious about worldly matters–how he may please his wife–
34 And he is drawn in diverging directions [his interests are divided and he is distracted from his devotion to God]. And the unmarried woman or girl is concerned and anxious about the matters of the Lord, how to be wholly separated and set apart in body and spirit; but the married woman has her cares [centered] in earthly affairs–how she may please her husband.
35 Now I say this for your own welfare and profit, not to put [a halter of] restraint upon you, but to promote what is seemly and in good order and to secure your undistracted and undivided devotion to the Lord.

Now, I believe that family is critical and being a husband, wife, mother, or father is truly a “calling” and a ministry that should never be taken lightly. But so is the single life–the task for us all is to stay focused on knowing and fulfilling God’s will and purpose for our own lives!