I coined this term five years ago and am still claiming club membership: “New Millennium Spinster.”
It was something the deejay on my car radio said about old women hanging out in the clubs– a thought so startling hit me that I almost rear-ended the car in front of me. I am a spinster! I confess that me – ex-fly girl, ex-trend and bar hopper – am a woman who has remained single beyond the conventional age for marrying.
That is at least Dictionary.com’s first definition of spinster. Culled from childhood, my definition of spinster summons up images of old women who sported a similar uniform – long shapeless skirt, sturdy dark shoes, hair pulled back tightly into a bun, bi-focals attached to a chain around their chicken-crepe necks, veiny hands and knobby fingers. They were sometimes scolding librarians, judgmental church secretaries, critical teachers, or the eccentric neighbor who on occasion doled out crystallized candy orange slices. She was a friend’s doting auntie who lived the life grand, cruised for months on end to foreign countries and returned with unusual gifts, exotic smells, and interesting tales.
Is that me? Surely not! No, not by any means! but it must be since I am formally fifty and unmarried; for good measure I’ll also throw in the fact that I have no children. It kinda bugs me that that men who have remained single beyond the conventional age for marrying don’t have a title. Why aren’t they also singled out? Since we spin, maybe they can smith, as in being a blacksmith: Spinsters and Smithers. Doesn’t have much of a ring does it?
Now that I’ve gotten over the shock, this spinning space doesn’t look too bad. I say it is time to give a new face to the Spinster stereotype. Just call me spunky ‘cause I’m subscribing to the latest buzz that fifty is the new thirty and forty is the new twenty…which would mean twenty is what, er..still twenty, yea. Hmm, and how does being a cougar fit in with the spinster concept?
Are you a New Millennium Spinster? Post your thoughts below – don’t edit them, just write!
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